A valid concern about whether-or-not-to-have-kids that I do think is timeline-adjacent is something like “there will be a lot of time/energy/attention/happiness consumed prior to it ‘paying off’ in a sufficient sense for both you and the kid.”
Like, parents tend to dip pretty hard into a place that’s sustainable for a year or three, but would be unsustainable/bad if it were “this is just what life is like for me now, forever.”
So I think “I have a lot of weight on us being two years away from disaster” is a pretty solid argument for “okay, well, let’s not spend those two years pregnant or with an infant.”
A valid concern about whether-or-not-to-have-kids that I do think is timeline-adjacent is something like “there will be a lot of time/energy/attention/happiness consumed prior to it ‘paying off’ in a sufficient sense for both you and the kid.”
Like, parents tend to dip pretty hard into a place that’s sustainable for a year or three, but would be unsustainable/bad if it were “this is just what life is like for me now, forever.”
So I think “I have a lot of weight on us being two years away from disaster” is a pretty solid argument for “okay, well, let’s not spend those two years pregnant or with an infant.”