I appreciate that. I think it’s good to have better access to reality. What I’m saying is that I would suggest prioritizing enhanced awareness of other dimension of reality. Before establishing my monogamous marriage I’d have happily have dated someone considered ugly with deformities who nonetheless had high compatibility emotionally, intellectually, and socially. My happiness and smoothness in doing so would probably have served as one of the compatibility bars that they would have employed to evaluate my fitness. There is a large societal focus on attractiveness but I don’t expect it to be the best predictor of optimal relational outcomes. You already to want to privilege and protect focus on that attribute. Do I misunderstand?
I appreciate that. I think it’s good to have better access to reality. What I’m saying is that I would suggest prioritizing enhanced awareness of other dimension of reality. Before establishing my monogamous marriage I’d have happily have dated someone considered ugly with deformities who nonetheless had high compatibility emotionally, intellectually, and socially. My happiness and smoothness in doing so would probably have served as one of the compatibility bars that they would have employed to evaluate my fitness. There is a large societal focus on attractiveness but I don’t expect it to be the best predictor of optimal relational outcomes. You already to want to privilege and protect focus on that attribute. Do I misunderstand?