One obvious elephant: how much time should you spend becoming physically attractive if you’re not above average height?
I’m between 5′3“ and 5′4”, so this is a very pertinent question for me. (For context, that’s around second percentile for male height in the US. Most women prefer men who are taller than them, and the average woman in the US is 5′5″. This is a pretty brutal constraint on top of my otherwise pretty solid dating fundamentals.)
That said, at least some women definitely find me physically attractive. I can tell because they’ve either told me so, or told me that they would have sex / are interested in having sex with me.
Those women have ever commented approvingly of my muscles (I’m notably muscular, with a lean build, when my shirt is off), my hairstyle, and my manner of dress. I think that all of those are secondary to my demeanor—socially confident and self-assured, emotionally attuned, fun / funny etc. But I think my appearance is totally a relevant factor, even despite being very short for a man.
I think that wearing clothes that fit you well, and finding a hairstyle that women think looks good on you, are cheap up front costs that often makes a big difference. If you have acne, I think solving that is also a big boost (though I didn’t have that problem and so don’t speak from personal experience). YMMV.
I’m between 5′3“ and 5′4”, so this is a very pertinent question for me. (For context, that’s around second percentile for male height in the US. Most women prefer men who are taller than them, and the average woman in the US is 5′5″. This is a pretty brutal constraint on top of my otherwise pretty solid dating fundamentals.)
That said, at least some women definitely find me physically attractive. I can tell because they’ve either told me so, or told me that they would have sex / are interested in having sex with me.
Those women have ever commented approvingly of my muscles (I’m notably muscular, with a lean build, when my shirt is off), my hairstyle, and my manner of dress. I think that all of those are secondary to my demeanor—socially confident and self-assured, emotionally attuned, fun / funny etc. But I think my appearance is totally a relevant factor, even despite being very short for a man.
I think that wearing clothes that fit you well, and finding a hairstyle that women think looks good on you, are cheap up front costs that often makes a big difference. If you have acne, I think solving that is also a big boost (though I didn’t have that problem and so don’t speak from personal experience). YMMV.