It’s probably worth mentioning that Guessers also have negative utility from refusing others requests, coming from a culture where requests are generally accepted. If the actors are ethical, then this gives a preference towards guessing.
In particular, you can imagine strategy where an unethical Asker is skilled at pitching requests such that the cost to a Guesser is greater than the gain for the Asker, but less than the Guessers penalty for refusing. By doing this the Asker “coerces” Guessers into agreeing.
Recognising this, an ethical agent in a society of mostly Guessers will likely also take a Guessing strategy.
It is important to note that these are not the only two options. The toxic part of Guessing is that they judge others for Asking. It is possible to be a “Friendly Guesser” who tries to Guess other people’s intentions but also allows others to Ask.
It’s probably worth mentioning that Guessers also have negative utility from refusing others requests, coming from a culture where requests are generally accepted. If the actors are ethical, then this gives a preference towards guessing. In particular, you can imagine strategy where an unethical Asker is skilled at pitching requests such that the cost to a Guesser is greater than the gain for the Asker, but less than the Guessers penalty for refusing. By doing this the Asker “coerces” Guessers into agreeing. Recognising this, an ethical agent in a society of mostly Guessers will likely also take a Guessing strategy.
It is important to note that these are not the only two options. The toxic part of Guessing is that they judge others for Asking. It is possible to be a “Friendly Guesser” who tries to Guess other people’s intentions but also allows others to Ask.