This is because sheer confidence and pushiness also work, to an extent. Just behaving enough like a leader is enough to get people to follow you. To encourage repeat following, be sure to deliver.
Upside: people do in fact go along more often than not. It’s somewhat disquieting how well it can work. Downside: you get a reputation as a pushy sod, which may be problematic later.
(I have specifically warned the staff at my daughter’s nursery to keep an eye out for her dominating the other kids too much and directly encouraging her to play cooperatively where feasible. She’s 3 1⁄2 and she successfully pushes the 5yo’s around and makes them play her games with her. Her pantomime theatresports variation of hide and seek—where you pretend to hide and pretend to seek, and the game is to be as creatively theatrical in the hiding and seeking as possible—particularly confuses them.)
pantomime theatresports variation of hide and seek—where you pretend to hide and pretend to seek, and the game is to be as creatively theatrical in the hiding and seeking as possible
She invented the pretending bit, I blatantly encouraged the creatively theatrical bit. I want her to learn what truth and pretend are, because I like Henson’s “whopper” theory. She’s doing okay I think at discerning truth, fiction and falsity.
Her mother plays too. It’s possible we just like having an appreciative audience, even if the audience is three years old.
I wonder if the other kids will take to pretend hide and seek.
This is because sheer confidence and pushiness also work, to an extent. Just behaving enough like a leader is enough to get people to follow you. To encourage repeat following, be sure to deliver.
Upside: people do in fact go along more often than not. It’s somewhat disquieting how well it can work. Downside: you get a reputation as a pushy sod, which may be problematic later.
(I have specifically warned the staff at my daughter’s nursery to keep an eye out for her dominating the other kids too much and directly encouraging her to play cooperatively where feasible. She’s 3 1⁄2 and she successfully pushes the 5yo’s around and makes them play her games with her. Her pantomime theatresports variation of hide and seek—where you pretend to hide and pretend to seek, and the game is to be as creatively theatrical in the hiding and seeking as possible—particularly confuses them.)
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She invented the pretending bit, I blatantly encouraged the creatively theatrical bit. I want her to learn what truth and pretend are, because I like Henson’s “whopper” theory. She’s doing okay I think at discerning truth, fiction and falsity.
Her mother plays too. It’s possible we just like having an appreciative audience, even if the audience is three years old.
I wonder if the other kids will take to pretend hide and seek.