The chance of winning her back that way (with all the consequences and further repeat risks down the line) has to be weighted against the consequences of entirely alienating her (which likely involves a break in the family and trauma for the children).
Since you are discussing your private life in public, would you mind if I’d ask why would you want to “win” her back? Seriously, she attempted to bring another man in your house. And if you just dumped her, what would she have gained by becoming hostile?
Since you are discussing your private life in public.
That is a point I’m not really happy with. The personal crisis account took a life of its own. The border is slippery here on LW where openness is valued and personal accounts with lessons for others are frequent (rationality diary and such). I’m aware that the privacy separation of account broke down.
Since you are discussing your private life in public, would you mind if I’d ask why would you want to “win” her back? Seriously, she attempted to bring another man in your house.
And if you just dumped her, what would she have gained by becoming hostile?
Because I was heavily in love with her? Because it could conceivably have been better for child children? Because I could see my failures in it?
That is a question asking rationality from someone not known to follow such a course in an emotional situation...
That is a point I’m not really happy with. The personal crisis account took a life of its own. The border is slippery here on LW where openness is valued and personal accounts with lessons for others are frequent (rationality diary and such). I’m aware that the privacy separation of account broke down.