I believe that people who agreed with Alice and had worked to increase their capacity would be more indignant, and that’s reason enough to never use this approach even if the goal is good. People hate having their work dismissed.
Huh, interesting! I definitely count myself as agreeing with Alice in some regards—like, I think I should work harder than I currently do, and I think it’s bad that I don’t, and I’ve definitely done some amount to increase my capacity, and I’m really interested in finding more ways to increase my capacity. But I don’t feel super indignant about being told that I should donate more or work harder—though I might feel pretty indignant if Alice is being mean about it! I’d describe my emotions as being closer to anxiety, and a very urgent sense of curiosity, and a desire for help and support.
(Planned posts later in the sequence cover things like what I want Alice to do differently, so I won’t write up the whole thing in a comment.)
I can picture ways people could bring up capacity-improvement-for-the-greater-good that I’d be really excited about. It’s something I care about and most people aren’t interested in. It’s the way Alice (in this story, and by default in the real world) brings it up I think is counterproductive.
I believe that people who agreed with Alice and had worked to increase their capacity would be more indignant, and that’s reason enough to never use this approach even if the goal is good. People hate having their work dismissed.
Huh, interesting! I definitely count myself as agreeing with Alice in some regards—like, I think I should work harder than I currently do, and I think it’s bad that I don’t, and I’ve definitely done some amount to increase my capacity, and I’m really interested in finding more ways to increase my capacity. But I don’t feel super indignant about being told that I should donate more or work harder—though I might feel pretty indignant if Alice is being mean about it! I’d describe my emotions as being closer to anxiety, and a very urgent sense of curiosity, and a desire for help and support.
(Planned posts later in the sequence cover things like what I want Alice to do differently, so I won’t write up the whole thing in a comment.)
I can picture ways people could bring up capacity-improvement-for-the-greater-good that I’d be really excited about. It’s something I care about and most people aren’t interested in. It’s the way Alice (in this story, and by default in the real world) brings it up I think is counterproductive.