Could you elaborate on the Reynaud’s thing? What do you mean “just stop”? Is there a different Reynaud’s to the syndrome that reduces circulation in fingers when your hands get cold?
It was her feet and stress induced, but yeah, reduced circulation. I literally mean “Just don’t do that”, as in “Send more blood to your [extremity]” which is how I actually worded it when my wife noticed reduced circulation in her hands due to cold air despite a warm core.
I have a long sequence about how to resolve “psychological issues” with rationality, and give examples of this friend learning to not swell her injuries because I told her it’s something you can just decide and of helping my wife constrict her blood vessels with a bit more guidance when that was desirable for stopping bleeding. Hopefully the explanation on the latter will help it feel a little less weird, but I’m not sure how much sense it’ll make as a stand alone post without going through the build up.
The problem really is as simple as “she wasn’t trying”, but the hard part is not getting stopped from trying by the belief that you can’t do it (e.g. if I told you to “start levitating” it’d feel impossible because it is and you wouldn’t know where to begin, and this makes the process of actually trying difficult. It’s the same issue even when you’re wrong about what you can do). So like, the question becomes “What does it take to change this belief” and the answer can be as simple as “just tell them” which is why it worked in these cases, but there’s a lot going on under the hood such that when I say weird shit like that she actually believes me.
And even then there’s some residual weirdness, like the fact that she thought she had tried to dilate her blood vessels before, but despite succeeding on the swelling on her own it wasn’t until I actually walked into the room that she was able to expect her blood vessels to dilate… which turns out to be the same action as intending. So I’m still working on getting things to generalize as far as they “should”.
Could you elaborate on the Reynaud’s thing? What do you mean “just stop”? Is there a different Reynaud’s to the syndrome that reduces circulation in fingers when your hands get cold?
It was her feet and stress induced, but yeah, reduced circulation. I literally mean “Just don’t do that”, as in “Send more blood to your [extremity]” which is how I actually worded it when my wife noticed reduced circulation in her hands due to cold air despite a warm core.
I have a long sequence about how to resolve “psychological issues” with rationality, and give examples of this friend learning to not swell her injuries because I told her it’s something you can just decide and of helping my wife constrict her blood vessels with a bit more guidance when that was desirable for stopping bleeding. Hopefully the explanation on the latter will help it feel a little less weird, but I’m not sure how much sense it’ll make as a stand alone post without going through the build up.
The problem really is as simple as “she wasn’t trying”, but the hard part is not getting stopped from trying by the belief that you can’t do it (e.g. if I told you to “start levitating” it’d feel impossible because it is and you wouldn’t know where to begin, and this makes the process of actually trying difficult. It’s the same issue even when you’re wrong about what you can do). So like, the question becomes “What does it take to change this belief” and the answer can be as simple as “just tell them” which is why it worked in these cases, but there’s a lot going on under the hood such that when I say weird shit like that she actually believes me.
And even then there’s some residual weirdness, like the fact that she thought she had tried to dilate her blood vessels before, but despite succeeding on the swelling on her own it wasn’t until I actually walked into the room that she was able to expect her blood vessels to dilate… which turns out to be the same action as intending. So I’m still working on getting things to generalize as far as they “should”.