ooh those are spicy. I’m not sure I agree about ethical superiority of poly; I think it’s perfectly reasonable for two people to reflectively consider how many emotional bonds their brain would be best shaped by, and then seek to have that many. But I also think a lot of people lie to themselves about it due to feeling that poly is morally unacceptable, or due to not filtering their partners on it and ending up wanting to have an open (intermittently more than two) or poly (durably more than two) relationship in a context where they’ve claimed they want to have and agreed to only have the pair.
re psychedelics, I agree that it can be used well, but I’d caution that they are not a generally safe toy. While they’re safer than is generally accepted right now in many ways, MDMA in particular is able to be quite chemically injurious, and can be habit forming or cause depression if one doesn’t know the limits and safety practices going in. many psychedelics can degrade agency, causing the person to have less opportunity through their lifespan to experience the awe, fun, beauty, or learning of psychedelics because of the learning it induces causing their skills to degrade; this is hardly the only possible outcome, and those who report that the good experience helped their life are probably often correct, but it’s easy for the constant surprising beauty feeling to be confused for constant true insight. Babble needs to be paired with prune or some of the apparent beauty will turn out to have been misunderstanding.
Also, it’s very important to remember that all illegal drugs are potentially quite deadly, and side effects should be considered carefully.
The definition of ‘polyamorous’ that I find cleanest, for me, is not forbidding your partner from having extra-relationship intimacy.
(I didn’t borrow the very concept from her, only neat definition)
If you fit this definition, but you just don’t want intimacy with anyone besides your partner—I consider you poly. I think this polyamory should be the default option.
(Now that I’ve thought about it, a more succinct not-exactly-definition might be “fuck jealousy!”. All the rest is conclusions.)
About psychedelics:
My bad, I wasn’t detailed enough. New weaker statement: “Responsible (where “responsible” is easy enough that >80% of population would have no problems implementing it if already existing safety practises became non-taboo common knowledge) usage of psychedelics and some other drugs (primarily, MDMA) has pretty big positive expected long-term utility”
Sounds like Aella. I remember reading her profile. Tapping the untapped market in a certain social circle. Not saying I’ve not seen similar patterns in the computer labs, but she sounds like she’s a smart woman. Bravo
ooh those are spicy. I’m not sure I agree about ethical superiority of poly; I think it’s perfectly reasonable for two people to reflectively consider how many emotional bonds their brain would be best shaped by, and then seek to have that many. But I also think a lot of people lie to themselves about it due to feeling that poly is morally unacceptable, or due to not filtering their partners on it and ending up wanting to have an open (intermittently more than two) or poly (durably more than two) relationship in a context where they’ve claimed they want to have and agreed to only have the pair.
re psychedelics, I agree that it can be used well, but I’d caution that they are not a generally safe toy. While they’re safer than is generally accepted right now in many ways, MDMA in particular is able to be quite chemically injurious, and can be habit forming or cause depression if one doesn’t know the limits and safety practices going in. many psychedelics can degrade agency, causing the person to have less opportunity through their lifespan to experience the awe, fun, beauty, or learning of psychedelics because of the learning it induces causing their skills to degrade; this is hardly the only possible outcome, and those who report that the good experience helped their life are probably often correct, but it’s easy for the constant surprising beauty feeling to be confused for constant true insight. Babble needs to be paired with prune or some of the apparent beauty will turn out to have been misunderstanding.
Also, it’s very important to remember that all illegal drugs are potentially quite deadly, and side effects should be considered carefully.
Okay, I probably should elaborate.
About polyamory:
I use the definition of polyamory like Aella’s:
(I didn’t borrow the very concept from her, only neat definition)
If you fit this definition, but you just don’t want intimacy with anyone besides your partner—I consider you poly. I think this polyamory should be the default option.
(Now that I’ve thought about it, a more succinct not-exactly-definition might be “fuck jealousy!”. All the rest is conclusions.)
About psychedelics:
My bad, I wasn’t detailed enough. New weaker statement: “Responsible (where “responsible” is easy enough that >80% of population would have no problems implementing it if already existing safety practises became non-taboo common knowledge) usage of psychedelics and some other drugs (primarily, MDMA) has pretty big positive expected long-term utility”
Sounds like Aella. I remember reading her profile. Tapping the untapped market in a certain social circle. Not saying I’ve not seen similar patterns in the computer labs, but she sounds like she’s a smart woman. Bravo