This is one of those things where there’s a lot of space between the central example of something and peripheral members, and the equivocation causes a lot of stress.
The central example of being judgmental involves being loud about the other person being bad in full generality, for whatever thing you’re judging. Making a judgement about a particular action, quietly, while still fully respecting the other party as a person doing the best they can, is a peripheral example of being judgmental.
Sometimes people confuse the latter for the former, or feel entitled to the judger’s good opinion on every aspect of themselves. Sometimes they aren’t confused but use confusing phrasing to get people on their side.
This is one of those things where there’s a lot of space between the central example of something and peripheral members, and the equivocation causes a lot of stress.
The central example of being judgmental involves being loud about the other person being bad in full generality, for whatever thing you’re judging. Making a judgement about a particular action, quietly, while still fully respecting the other party as a person doing the best they can, is a peripheral example of being judgmental.
Sometimes people confuse the latter for the former, or feel entitled to the judger’s good opinion on every aspect of themselves. Sometimes they aren’t confused but use confusing phrasing to get people on their side.