If you’re willing to start with the raw material, this might be an interesting question to raise at Metafilter—it’s got a lively and varied commenting community.
This indeed might make an interesting ask.metafilter question. That is by far the most useful part of the site. I have a backlog of questions I want to ask them and you can only ask one question per week so I cannot volunteer to ask it.
If you paid the 5$ signup and waited one week and asked your question you will get answers. I have no idea if you would get any good answers, let alone an answer worth 5$ to you, but you would get answers. There is no question in my mind that at least one time in the history of that website more than one person has paid the 5$ signup, waited one week, posted one question, and disappeared off into the aether.
You do not need a book for this. What you need is parents who succeeded in their own lives and a close relationship with them. Since I don’t have that, I wouldn’t mind the book you imagine is out there. It probably needs to have a long chapter on tips for managing resentment of all the people around us who have good relationships with their successful parents and for whom life is like a frolic in the park.
The closest thing I have seen to a book approaching your question is by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin Your Money or Your Life.
Thanks! The specific article you sent me to was very close to the reason I was looking for information here. There was a comment over there:
you can’t plan 20 years out because you don’t know what’s going to happen. You can plan around goals, and that might be the most useful thing you can do. Don’t just think about ‘retiring before the age of 50’ or ‘getting married by 28’. Life doesn’t work that way. However, if you DO write out your goals and plans for the next fifty years, leave them somewhere and find them in a few decades...hours of laughter and tears....guaranteed.
My goal in searching for this information is not to plan so much as to try to predict what will happen. What will I probably do? I want to write out the prediction and see how things go. Laugh. Then make a new prediction that will hopefully induce less laughter and more smug self confidence. Lather, rinse, repeat :-P
I tracked down a summary of the core concepts in “Your Money Or Your Life” that you mentioned. It looked like it would be helpful for anyone who is financially drowning because they are flinching around conscientious money management. Its not exactly what I’m looking for right now, however.
I also ran the google search you suggested, looked through the results, and find two more interesting books in the process, like the one’s in the original article they are not exactly what I want, but they are in the ballpark:
I’m not sure which of the many norms you’re referring to.
Unfortunately, I’m an occasional reader at MeFi, and can’t help out with the culture. It might be worth asking about, either at Mefi, or at Ask Metafilter.
If you’re willing to start with the raw material, this might be an interesting question to raise at Metafilter—it’s got a lively and varied commenting community.
That seems like a good idea, but I’m afraid of spamming them. When I checked, they seem to have norms against what I’d want to do.
If anyone here is a member of Metafilter in good standing who could do an “Ask Metafilter” post on this subject, I would appreciate it :-)
Metafilter user 16609 (joined Oct 5 2002) here.
This indeed might make an interesting ask.metafilter question. That is by far the most useful part of the site. I have a backlog of questions I want to ask them and you can only ask one question per week so I cannot volunteer to ask it.
If you paid the 5$ signup and waited one week and asked your question you will get answers. I have no idea if you would get any good answers, let alone an answer worth 5$ to you, but you would get answers. There is no question in my mind that at least one time in the history of that website more than one person has paid the 5$ signup, waited one week, posted one question, and disappeared off into the aether.
I did the following google search:
lifehacks site:ask.metafilter.com
There were 62 hits. The first two I clicked on were useless, but you might like the third one I clicked on:
http://ask.metafilter.com/69892/Lifeplanning
You do not need a book for this. What you need is parents who succeeded in their own lives and a close relationship with them. Since I don’t have that, I wouldn’t mind the book you imagine is out there. It probably needs to have a long chapter on tips for managing resentment of all the people around us who have good relationships with their successful parents and for whom life is like a frolic in the park.
The closest thing I have seen to a book approaching your question is by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin Your Money or Your Life.
Thanks! The specific article you sent me to was very close to the reason I was looking for information here. There was a comment over there:
My goal in searching for this information is not to plan so much as to try to predict what will happen. What will I probably do? I want to write out the prediction and see how things go. Laugh. Then make a new prediction that will hopefully induce less laughter and more smug self confidence. Lather, rinse, repeat :-P
I tracked down a summary of the core concepts in “Your Money Or Your Life” that you mentioned. It looked like it would be helpful for anyone who is financially drowning because they are flinching around conscientious money management. Its not exactly what I’m looking for right now, however.
I also ran the google search you suggested, looked through the results, and find two more interesting books in the process, like the one’s in the original article they are not exactly what I want, but they are in the ballpark:
Lifemaps : A Step-By-Step Method for Simplifying 101 of Life’s Most Overwhelming Projects
Lifescripts: What to Say to Get What You Want in Life’s Toughest Situations
I’m not sure which of the many norms you’re referring to.
Unfortunately, I’m an occasional reader at MeFi, and can’t help out with the culture. It might be worth asking about, either at Mefi, or at Ask Metafilter.