I mostly agree with this framing and advice. I’d add “be honest about your strength of commitment”. If there’s a 30% chance you’ll won’t follow through (for whatever reason), don’t say “I’ll be there”, say “I’ll try”, or “I hope I can make it” or (amongs nerds) “70% of future probability weight has me there”.
Reneging does impose cost on your partners—they invested something in the thing. If you can help them decide what level of investment is appropriate, do so.
I mostly agree with this framing and advice. I’d add “be honest about your strength of commitment”. If there’s a 30% chance you’ll won’t follow through (for whatever reason), don’t say “I’ll be there”, say “I’ll try”, or “I hope I can make it” or (amongs nerds) “70% of future probability weight has me there”.
Reneging does impose cost on your partners—they invested something in the thing. If you can help them decide what level of investment is appropriate, do so.