Some people in the comments don’t like this idea, but I think it’s reasonable. Lots of people believe that they can easily take criticism with no need for politeness, but the truth is it affects them and they still feel a little bit sour inside. We’re all human.
I do think the tone of you post could be a little better. These somewhat dishonest politenesses are at best a necessary evil, not a clever formula to be proud of! If you do them, you should be very meek and humble about it, and definitely not feeling like you’re smarter (or superior). jbash is right that it can seem unbearably patronizing.
The Final Thoughts make it sound like this is a technique which smart people should use on those lower than them, and somehow gives me a “playing with people is fun” vibe. This may irritate people who already dislike corporate speak.
Then again, one good thing about this idea is that it reminds you to talk about and think about good things (regarding a person and their efforts). Sometimes it’s all too easy to take for granted the good intentions of people, when you’re preoccupied by the disagreements. You’ve got my upvote.
Some people in the comments don’t like this idea, but I think it’s reasonable. Lots of people believe that they can easily take criticism with no need for politeness, but the truth is it affects them and they still feel a little bit sour inside. We’re all human.
I do think the tone of you post could be a little better. These somewhat dishonest politenesses are at best a necessary evil, not a clever formula to be proud of! If you do them, you should be very meek and humble about it, and definitely not feeling like you’re smarter (or superior). jbash is right that it can seem unbearably patronizing.
The Final Thoughts make it sound like this is a technique which smart people should use on those lower than them, and somehow gives me a “playing with people is fun” vibe. This may irritate people who already dislike corporate speak.
Then again, one good thing about this idea is that it reminds you to talk about and think about good things (regarding a person and their efforts). Sometimes it’s all too easy to take for granted the good intentions of people, when you’re preoccupied by the disagreements. You’ve got my upvote.