I heartily endorse this sentiment, but it’s important to remember that wishing reality was different can also be valuable motivator.
I’m pretty good at accepting the things I cannot change. The problem is that this sometimes generalizes too broadly, and leads me to accept things that I probably shouldn’t. My emotional reactions don’t always have the wisdom to know the difference.
I’m talking about present reality, not future reality. Our mind doesn’t seem to distinguish very well, as you mention w/ your emotional reactions. We imagine that the current context is different in the same way that we imagine the future could be different, even though the current situation is (tautologically) unchangeable.
The question of whether future reality can be changed is far from straightforward, but at least there’s a shot. Whereas we know for sure that the inputs we are experiencing in the present moment cannot be changed. We can act in the next moment to change things in the moment after that, but nothing will change the fact that I’ve encountered an unexpected traffic jam.
I heartily endorse this sentiment, but it’s important to remember that wishing reality was different can also be valuable motivator.
I’m pretty good at accepting the things I cannot change. The problem is that this sometimes generalizes too broadly, and leads me to accept things that I probably shouldn’t. My emotional reactions don’t always have the wisdom to know the difference.
I’m talking about present reality, not future reality. Our mind doesn’t seem to distinguish very well, as you mention w/ your emotional reactions. We imagine that the current context is different in the same way that we imagine the future could be different, even though the current situation is (tautologically) unchangeable.
The question of whether future reality can be changed is far from straightforward, but at least there’s a shot. Whereas we know for sure that the inputs we are experiencing in the present moment cannot be changed. We can act in the next moment to change things in the moment after that, but nothing will change the fact that I’ve encountered an unexpected traffic jam.