Well, can you point out an instance in which I’ve lacked tact? And why would this not be a virtue on LW? Truth doesn’t care about our feelings nor our morals, it’s brutal and it’s also ugly (with the exception of the beauty in mathematics).
One can talk with the goal of socializing, or with the goal of learning the truth, the two approaches are in conflict. If you attempt to do both at once, your efficiency will be terrible.
You’re only communicating if people are listening to you. If you talk in a way that causes fewer people to listen to you you’re being anything but more efficient. The goal isn’t to issue forth your great truths into the empty void—it is to be heard and understood by the greatest number of people. Tact is the avoidance of needless offense to other people. It is a cop-out to say that the only way something brutal or ugly can be communicated is to offend people in the process. What that statement actually means is that you can’t be bothered to find a tactful way to communicate.
Some posts and comments are not for all people, and I think that’s alright. There’s a somewhat controversial quote which goes “no meaningful communication is possible among people not sharing a common window of 30 IQ points”, and I think it’s more true than false in intellectual contexts. Also, I just remembered—I got into the habit of writing in a way that stupid people cannot understand doing my time on Reddit. Precisely by filtering stupid people, do I avoid offending them, and entering into discussions with people who weren’t meant for the information at hand.
I also think it’s enought that my comments hold no malice or hostility. Information-seeking is inherently perverted, so it’s hard to do in a tasteful way. And navigating around all peoples insecurities is frankly not possible. I could claim that your comment is offensive to me, and that would be totally unfalsifiable, you’d have no defense other than asserting that I’m being unreasonable.
And in a sense, I think it’s rude for people who cannot handle reality to enter into intellectual discussions, since they cannot provide any value, and because they have a tendency to attack the people who can. Your own perception of reality is your own responsibility, this was the cultural norm around 40 years ago, and things steadly get worse as this norm fades further.
Well, can you point out an instance in which I’ve lacked tact? And why would this not be a virtue on LW? Truth doesn’t care about our feelings nor our morals, it’s brutal and it’s also ugly (with the exception of the beauty in mathematics).
One can talk with the goal of socializing, or with the goal of learning the truth, the two approaches are in conflict. If you attempt to do both at once, your efficiency will be terrible.
You’re only communicating if people are listening to you. If you talk in a way that causes fewer people to listen to you you’re being anything but more efficient. The goal isn’t to issue forth your great truths into the empty void—it is to be heard and understood by the greatest number of people. Tact is the avoidance of needless offense to other people. It is a cop-out to say that the only way something brutal or ugly can be communicated is to offend people in the process. What that statement actually means is that you can’t be bothered to find a tactful way to communicate.
Some posts and comments are not for all people, and I think that’s alright. There’s a somewhat controversial quote which goes “no meaningful communication is possible among people not sharing a common window of 30 IQ points”, and I think it’s more true than false in intellectual contexts. Also, I just remembered—I got into the habit of writing in a way that stupid people cannot understand doing my time on Reddit. Precisely by filtering stupid people, do I avoid offending them, and entering into discussions with people who weren’t meant for the information at hand.
I also think it’s enought that my comments hold no malice or hostility. Information-seeking is inherently perverted, so it’s hard to do in a tasteful way. And navigating around all peoples insecurities is frankly not possible. I could claim that your comment is offensive to me, and that would be totally unfalsifiable, you’d have no defense other than asserting that I’m being unreasonable.
And in a sense, I think it’s rude for people who cannot handle reality to enter into intellectual discussions, since they cannot provide any value, and because they have a tendency to attack the people who can. Your own perception of reality is your own responsibility, this was the cultural norm around 40 years ago, and things steadly get worse as this norm fades further.