It might be worth tracking the hypothesis that people aren’t thinking quite as specifically as you seem to be about banter as a lever to pull to get sex. I for example saw banter and sex as part of a way to explore a potential long term relationship and marriage. Sometimes casual sex would happen instead, and it could sometimes be interesting to explore banter and casual sex for their own sake. But I never really was interested in finding the most efficient ways to get sex from the largest number of casual partners, the pickup artist culture.
It might be worth tracking the hypothesis that people aren’t thinking quite as specifically as you seem to be about banter as a lever to pull to get sex. I for example saw banter and sex as part of a way to explore a potential long term relationship and marriage. Sometimes casual sex would happen instead, and it could sometimes be interesting to explore banter and casual sex for their own sake. But I never really was interested in finding the most efficient ways to get sex from the largest number of casual partners, the pickup artist culture.