Agreed with horrifying, disagree with incorrect. You cannot actually opt-out of status games and evaluations that others will make about you. Joining the anti-tribe tribe is going to affect your status. This is mostly because modern tribes are overlapping—saying you reject other tribes doesn’t keep members of those tribes from judging you and acting on those judgements. You’re implicitly treated as a member (or target) of every tribe that you interact with.
However it’s simply not true that all beliefs and communications are purely zero-sum status relationships. In fact, almost all actions and statements are mixed games, with some elements of zero-sum status, some of variable-sum status (making your entire group higher status, even if your status doesn’t change), some of zero-sum non-status (say, taking more of a trade surplus), and some variable-sum non-status (actually producing value).
Agreed with horrifying, disagree with incorrect. You cannot actually opt-out of status games and evaluations that others will make about you. Joining the anti-tribe tribe is going to affect your status. This is mostly because modern tribes are overlapping—saying you reject other tribes doesn’t keep members of those tribes from judging you and acting on those judgements. You’re implicitly treated as a member (or target) of every tribe that you interact with.
However it’s simply not true that all beliefs and communications are purely zero-sum status relationships. In fact, almost all actions and statements are mixed games, with some elements of zero-sum status, some of variable-sum status (making your entire group higher status, even if your status doesn’t change), some of zero-sum non-status (say, taking more of a trade surplus), and some variable-sum non-status (actually producing value).
You can influence that mix with your decisions.