I am pretty sure that you can confess to a priest that you have been un-abstinent and be forgiven for it and not be destined for hell… Adding condom use on top of lack of abstinence would have the consequence of having to do more penance, most likely.
You do have to be repentant, which kindof implies that you’ve changed your ways and are not going to do that sort of thing again. The ways of penance are a bit mysterious, but it couldn’t possibly be a concern since it would probably involve 5 prayers instead of 4 or something like that.
A better response though, is that the person who has condoms and then is unexpectedly not abstinent will likely use them, and someone who is against condom use will probably not find himself in that position, which seems to be harmful. But I still don’t think it’s the Pope’s problem to be giving advice to people for what to do if they’re going to go around breaking the rules; why then follow his advice at all?
It’s hardly without precedent to give people backup plans for what to do if they break rules:
“Don’t you dare go to a party where there is any alcohol, young lady! But if you do, and you get drunk, for the love of God call me and I’ll pick you up, don’t drive!”
“Do not do anything that would cause you to get set on fire. If you do, stop, drop, and roll.”
“Don’t wear socks with sandals. But if you must, at least have them be short socks, not knee-length jobs in a heavy fabric.”
“Don’t drink the water there—if you do, boil it first.”
But the Church expects people to be perfect, and isn’t particularly concerned about minimizing harm in the case that you break the rules. Picture this conversation:
“Don’t have sex before marriage, and don’t use condoms”
“Okay, no sex before marriage. But what if I do, then should I use a condom?”
“What do you mean, what if I do? Don’t do it at all. Have zero sex before marriage. Also, don’t use condoms. It’s simple.”
“Oh, okay. So avoid having sex before marriage, and if I do have sex before marriage, then I shouldn’t use a condom.”
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The sorts of rules you cite make sense when you’re trying to minimize physical harms. When your job is protecting the immortal souls of people, that’s a secondary concern at best.
“Don’t do something that damns your immortal soul to an eternity of torment. But if you do, make sure you wear a sweater” makes about as much sense in this context.
You do have to be repentant, which kindof implies that you’ve changed your ways and are not going to do that sort of thing again. The ways of penance are a bit mysterious, but it couldn’t possibly be a concern since it would probably involve 5 prayers instead of 4 or something like that.
A better response though, is that the person who has condoms and then is unexpectedly not abstinent will likely use them, and someone who is against condom use will probably not find himself in that position, which seems to be harmful. But I still don’t think it’s the Pope’s problem to be giving advice to people for what to do if they’re going to go around breaking the rules; why then follow his advice at all?
It’s hardly without precedent to give people backup plans for what to do if they break rules:
“Don’t you dare go to a party where there is any alcohol, young lady! But if you do, and you get drunk, for the love of God call me and I’ll pick you up, don’t drive!”
“Do not do anything that would cause you to get set on fire. If you do, stop, drop, and roll.”
“Don’t wear socks with sandals. But if you must, at least have them be short socks, not knee-length jobs in a heavy fabric.”
“Don’t drink the water there—if you do, boil it first.”
But the Church expects people to be perfect, and isn’t particularly concerned about minimizing harm in the case that you break the rules. Picture this conversation:
“Don’t have sex before marriage, and don’t use condoms”
“Okay, no sex before marriage. But what if I do, then should I use a condom?”
“What do you mean, what if I do? Don’t do it at all. Have zero sex before marriage. Also, don’t use condoms. It’s simple.”
“Oh, okay. So avoid having sex before marriage, and if I do have sex before marriage, then I shouldn’t use a condom.”
...
The sorts of rules you cite make sense when you’re trying to minimize physical harms. When your job is protecting the immortal souls of people, that’s a secondary concern at best.
“Don’t do something that damns your immortal soul to an eternity of torment. But if you do, make sure you wear a sweater” makes about as much sense in this context.