So, I agree with this criticism, but you really should have led with the criticism, instead of starting out with the impudent demand (well, “request”—you did say “please”) that Liron change his presentation, and then only explaining the rationale when questioned. A criticism that is stated can then be argued with (I bet you didn’t anticipate that Liron was presenting to a boys’ group!), whereas a request backed by an unstated rationale (of which it is assumed that “everyone knows”) is more likely to be functioning as a social threat: “Do as I say, or I’ll attack your moral character in the ensuing interaction (rather than arguing in good faith).”
Understanding these dynamics may turn out to be surprisingly relevant to your interests—although you probably won’t understand what I’m talking about for another ten years, two months.
So, I agree with this criticism, but you really should have led with the criticism, instead of starting out with the impudent demand (well, “request”—you did say “please”) that Liron change his presentation, and then only explaining the rationale when questioned. A criticism that is stated can then be argued with (I bet you didn’t anticipate that Liron was presenting to a boys’ group!), whereas a request backed by an unstated rationale (of which it is assumed that “everyone knows”) is more likely to be functioning as a social threat: “Do as I say, or I’ll attack your moral character in the ensuing interaction (rather than arguing in good faith).”
Understanding these dynamics may turn out to be surprisingly relevant to your interests—although you probably won’t understand what I’m talking about for another ten years, two months.
Reading this comment and figuring out what was going on was an interesting (and pleasant) rollercoaster