You left out legitimate reasons, which seems like a big bias on your part. Dating is for babies and babies are dangerous in exploitation-land. And people in exploitation-land are dangerous too.
The OP says they don’t know why people don’t invest in certain strategies, and says stuff like
Without further ado, here are 10 reasons why you’re fucking lazy instead of fucking.
Or maybe you just need to get off your lazy ass and earn the romantic life you want.
The OP presents a bunch of reasons, roughly all of which paint the supposed non-investor as stupid, myopic, weak, etc. I’m saying the OP fails to understand non-stupid reasons to express wanting something and also not taking the actions the OP recommends. I elliptically gestured at some such reasons. The first reason is that “dating” is an activity that’s motivated by motivations that evolution put there mostly to cause one to have babies. Which of course we choose to repurpose for lots of other things, which seems good, but my point is that the motivations that would drive one to date are bound up with motivations to have babies, so dating that isn’t aimed at having babies is more fraught (not saying it’s bad, just saying it’s by default more complicated and tension-inducing, since there’s tension between the apparent aims, the actual aims, and the repudiated aims). Actually having babies is a dangerous thing to do in a world where, for most people, you’re at the behest of actors who are not aligned with your interests, like governments and employers, and who may take advantage of you having a baby to exploit your satisficing strategies (you have to satisfice having enough food and shelter for your baby). Also, as a knock-on effect, many people are adapted to live in a world where generous collaboration is punished, by exploiting others (see women used for sex and then abandoned to raise a child alone, or men being made debt slaves by crazy divorce rulings from hostile ex-wives). Wanting something badly (such as companionship, protection, children, etc.) makes one vulnerable to exploitation.
You left out legitimate reasons, which seems like a big bias on your part. Dating is for babies and babies are dangerous in exploitation-land. And people in exploitation-land are dangerous too.
I can’t parse this. Babies? Exploitation land? What?
The OP says they don’t know why people don’t invest in certain strategies, and says stuff like
The OP presents a bunch of reasons, roughly all of which paint the supposed non-investor as stupid, myopic, weak, etc. I’m saying the OP fails to understand non-stupid reasons to express wanting something and also not taking the actions the OP recommends. I elliptically gestured at some such reasons. The first reason is that “dating” is an activity that’s motivated by motivations that evolution put there mostly to cause one to have babies. Which of course we choose to repurpose for lots of other things, which seems good, but my point is that the motivations that would drive one to date are bound up with motivations to have babies, so dating that isn’t aimed at having babies is more fraught (not saying it’s bad, just saying it’s by default more complicated and tension-inducing, since there’s tension between the apparent aims, the actual aims, and the repudiated aims). Actually having babies is a dangerous thing to do in a world where, for most people, you’re at the behest of actors who are not aligned with your interests, like governments and employers, and who may take advantage of you having a baby to exploit your satisficing strategies (you have to satisfice having enough food and shelter for your baby). Also, as a knock-on effect, many people are adapted to live in a world where generous collaboration is punished, by exploiting others (see women used for sex and then abandoned to raise a child alone, or men being made debt slaves by crazy divorce rulings from hostile ex-wives). Wanting something badly (such as companionship, protection, children, etc.) makes one vulnerable to exploitation.
The confusion comes from parsing this as “babies are the ones who should be dating” rather than as “people date in order to make babies”.