I’m exploring a practice of what I’ll call “peer preview,” trying to assess the value a post provides to its audience, what other valuable projects could emerge from it, and how it might be viewed a year from now.
There’s a lot of advice and vivid descriptions of anxiety out there, and the benefits of overcoming it. But it’s rare to get a quantitative perspective like this. The documentation seems like a lightweight technique with real potential benefits. I wonder if it’s a common prescription.
It makes me wonder how many people who don’t perceive themselves as neurotically timid or anxious have actually just managed to shield themselves from ever encountering anxious triggers. I can think of several things that seem anxiety-provoking, that might be a happy addition to my life, and which don’t actually cause me anxiety because I so thoroughly avoid them. I can also see how a tacit part of many relationships is identifying what makes each other anxious, and securing tacit agreements that you will avoid those anxious triggers forever.
I’d be interested in writing about relationships that delves into the nuances of how to cultivate friendships and romantic relationships in which there’s a conscious mutual understanding of that “anxiety avoidance” dynamic, and an explicit agreement to find ways to shift into a “do what scares us” paradigm.
Note: In response to feedback, I’m removing a portion of this comment that might not be constructive.
I’m exploring a practice of what I’ll call “peer preview,” trying to assess the value a post provides to its audience, what other valuable projects could emerge from it, and how it might be viewed a year from now.
There’s a lot of advice and vivid descriptions of anxiety out there, and the benefits of overcoming it. But it’s rare to get a quantitative perspective like this. The documentation seems like a lightweight technique with real potential benefits. I wonder if it’s a common prescription.
It makes me wonder how many people who don’t perceive themselves as neurotically timid or anxious have actually just managed to shield themselves from ever encountering anxious triggers. I can think of several things that seem anxiety-provoking, that might be a happy addition to my life, and which don’t actually cause me anxiety because I so thoroughly avoid them. I can also see how a tacit part of many relationships is identifying what makes each other anxious, and securing tacit agreements that you will avoid those anxious triggers forever.
I’d be interested in writing about relationships that delves into the nuances of how to cultivate friendships and romantic relationships in which there’s a conscious mutual understanding of that “anxiety avoidance” dynamic, and an explicit agreement to find ways to shift into a “do what scares us” paradigm.
Note: In response to feedback, I’m removing a portion of this comment that might not be constructive.