I interpret the confusion around flirting as “life imitating art” — specifically, there is a cultural narrative about how flirting works that a lot of socially awkward people are trying to implement.
That means there are big discrepancies between how experts flirt and how most people flirt. It also means that most people have to learn how to read the flirtation signals of other low-flirtation-skill people.
The cultural narrative around flirting therefore doesn’t exactly match practice, even though it influences practice.
It doesn’t necessarily take that much flirting to build enough confidence to ask someone out. Are they alone at a party? Is your conversation with them going on longer than for most people? Is it fun? You’re all set.
I interpret the confusion around flirting as “life imitating art” — specifically, there is a cultural narrative about how flirting works that a lot of socially awkward people are trying to implement.
That means there are big discrepancies between how experts flirt and how most people flirt. It also means that most people have to learn how to read the flirtation signals of other low-flirtation-skill people.
The cultural narrative around flirting therefore doesn’t exactly match practice, even though it influences practice.
It doesn’t necessarily take that much flirting to build enough confidence to ask someone out. Are they alone at a party? Is your conversation with them going on longer than for most people? Is it fun? You’re all set.