I think people use the internet/apps for dating due to a combination of convenience in sorting/search, because it’s less awkward to be rejected online, and because it’s the path of least resistance, not because asking people out in person is considered rude.
It’s true that in middle-class/upper middle class circles, professional events/workplace is now considered ~off-limits for dating, which wasn’t true 30 years ago. However, that’s a big difference from what you originally said where only dating-specific events are okay.
People also do professional networking online + in dedicated networking events, but I don’t think it’s considered impolite to (eg) incidentally network in a ski lodge. Less effective, sure, but not impolite.
I’m also in the general Bay Area/tech/educated milieu, so I do have relevant anecdotal experience here[1].
eg I recently went on a few dates with a leftist girl I asked out at a stargazing thing. Neither of us thought it was impolite, I think. That said, it didn’t work out, and I guess I should’ve been able to figure that out a priori from stargazing not being the type of thing that’s sufficiently indicative of relationship compatibility.
I think people use the internet/apps for dating due to a combination of convenience in sorting/search, because it’s less awkward to be rejected online, and because it’s the path of least resistance, not because asking people out in person is considered rude.
It’s true that in middle-class/upper middle class circles, professional events/workplace is now considered ~off-limits for dating, which wasn’t true 30 years ago. However, that’s a big difference from what you originally said where only dating-specific events are okay.
People also do professional networking online + in dedicated networking events, but I don’t think it’s considered impolite to (eg) incidentally network in a ski lodge. Less effective, sure, but not impolite.
I’m also in the general Bay Area/tech/educated milieu, so I do have relevant anecdotal experience here[1].
eg I recently went on a few dates with a leftist girl I asked out at a stargazing thing. Neither of us thought it was impolite, I think. That said, it didn’t work out, and I guess I should’ve been able to figure that out a priori from stargazing not being the type of thing that’s sufficiently indicative of relationship compatibility.