One decent way of engineering an authentic 1-1 conversation is to go through a bunch of personal and vulnerability-inducing questions together, a la 36 Questions that Lead in Love (after cutting the ⅔ of questions that I found dull). So I made a list of questions I considered interesting, which I expected to lead to authentic and vulnerable conversations.
This is a fascinating strategy and I’m surprised it worked so well. The linked article for the list of questions is paywalled (and NYT).
This is a fascinating strategy and I’m surprised it worked so well. The linked article for the list of questions is paywalled (and NYT).
After a bit of digging, this seems to be the original study for which the questions were formulated: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0146167297234003 . The various questions sets are listed in the Appendix that starts on page 12.
And this site seems to be an open-access, interactive mirror of the 36 questions from the NYT article: http://36questionsinlove.com/
Ah, I didn’t notice the paywall. Thanks for collecting those!
I also like Spencer Greenberg’s Life-Changing Questions and Askhole (again, most of these are unsuitable, but there are some gems in there)