At twenty years old, I recently gained my independence following a period of estrangement from my family. The heart of our conflict lies in my attitude toward the kindness they extend to me. I define all their favors as “actions of their own choosing,” maintaining the stance that while I am grateful for their financial support, it remains their choice and not my responsibility. My family condemns this as an “inhumane selfishness” stripped of both gratitude and regret.
I’m confused. “gained my independence” makes it sounds like you were being kept helpless, but if it was just optional financial gifts they gave you for their own reasons, didn’t you already have independence? My suspicion is that you were disingenuously accepting support when it was convenient, and are now trying to claim that there was no reasonable expectation of behavior that came with the support.
IMO, it’s a dick move. analogies to fictional dick moves don’t make it better.
I’m confused. “gained my independence” makes it sounds like you were being kept helpless, but if it was just optional financial gifts they gave you for their own reasons, didn’t you already have independence? My suspicion is that you were disingenuously accepting support when it was convenient, and are now trying to claim that there was no reasonable expectation of behavior that came with the support.
IMO, it’s a dick move. analogies to fictional dick moves don’t make it better.