In the post and comments, you’ve said that you’re reflectively stable, in the sense of endorsing your current values. In combination with the sadistic kinks/values described above, that raises some questions:
What exactly stops you from inflicting suffering on people, other than the prospect of social or legal repercussions? Do you have some values that countervail against the sadism? If yes, what are they, and how do you reconcile them with the sadism? [1]
Asking partly because: I occasionally run into sadistic parts in myself, but haven’t found a way to reconcile them with my more empathetic parts, so I usually just suppress/avoid the sadistic parts. And I’d like to find a way to reconcile/integrate them instead.
I have empathetic parts too. The main reconciliation is simply that lots of women want exactly what I want to do to them in bed; I am fortunate in that regard. Indeed, demand for my tastes probably outstrips supply by a very wide margin; from my perspective it’s a shame that the mating markets are so wildly inefficient.
In the post and comments, you’ve said that you’re reflectively stable, in the sense of endorsing your current values. In combination with the sadistic kinks/values described above, that raises some questions:
What exactly stops you from inflicting suffering on people, other than the prospect of social or legal repercussions? Do you have some values that countervail against the sadism? If yes, what are they, and how do you reconcile them with the sadism? [1]
Asking partly because: I occasionally run into sadistic parts in myself, but haven’t found a way to reconcile them with my more empathetic parts, so I usually just suppress/avoid the sadistic parts. And I’d like to find a way to reconcile/integrate them instead.
I have empathetic parts too. The main reconciliation is simply that lots of women want exactly what I want to do to them in bed; I am fortunate in that regard. Indeed, demand for my tastes probably outstrips supply by a very wide margin; from my perspective it’s a shame that the mating markets are so wildly inefficient.