That does seem like the healthiest version, but it’s a tough one to emotionally communicate to a partner if they’re not already taking that stance themselves—attempts to push growth come across as criticism of current state, if they’re not already in that mindset. So, yeah, ideally one finds a partner who just reflexively takes that stance toward everything all the time. Especially since it’s the things which one is most insecure about which tend to end up being bottlenecks.
That does seem like the healthiest version, but it’s a tough one to emotionally communicate to a partner if they’re not already taking that stance themselves—attempts to push growth come across as criticism of current state, if they’re not already in that mindset. So, yeah, ideally one finds a partner who just reflexively takes that stance toward everything all the time. Especially since it’s the things which one is most insecure about which tend to end up being bottlenecks.