I don’t think this stance is as rare as you think. My partner (who doesn’t care for rationalism in general and has never met a rationalist other than (I guess) me) regularly says things like “[general wrath] oh wait my period is starting, that’s probably why I’m raging, nevermind” and “have you considered that you’re only being depressive about [side project] because [main job] is going badly?”.
I will admit that selecting on “people who are in a relationship with me” is a pretty strong filter. Overall I’m hopeful for this social tech to become more common.
(In fact now I think about it, were the “you’re being hysterical dear” comments of old actually sometimes a version of this, as opposed to being—as is often now assumed—abhorrent levels of sexism)
Agreed, I don’t think it’s actually that rare. The rare part is the common knowledge and normalization, which makes it so much easier to raise as a hypothesis in the heat of the moment.
The rare part is the common knowledge and normalization
Trying to suggest that someone else’s bad mood might be caused by their period would be considered by most people horribly sexist. So you can only hope that they might notice it themselves… or very gently and non-specifically point towards the general idea of hangriness and hope that they can connect the dots...
And this is more likely to work if the concept is a frequently used common knowledge.
I don’t think this stance is as rare as you think. My partner (who doesn’t care for rationalism in general and has never met a rationalist other than (I guess) me) regularly says things like “[general wrath] oh wait my period is starting, that’s probably why I’m raging, nevermind” and “have you considered that you’re only being depressive about [side project] because [main job] is going badly?”.
I will admit that selecting on “people who are in a relationship with me” is a pretty strong filter. Overall I’m hopeful for this social tech to become more common.
(In fact now I think about it, were the “you’re being hysterical dear” comments of old actually sometimes a version of this, as opposed to being—as is often now assumed—abhorrent levels of sexism)
Agreed, I don’t think it’s actually that rare. The rare part is the common knowledge and normalization, which makes it so much easier to raise as a hypothesis in the heat of the moment.
Trying to suggest that someone else’s bad mood might be caused by their period would be considered by most people horribly sexist. So you can only hope that they might notice it themselves… or very gently and non-specifically point towards the general idea of hangriness and hope that they can connect the dots...
And this is more likely to work if the concept is a frequently used common knowledge.