I’ve been married 6 years (together for 9), and my wife is not a rationalist, and wouldn’t be interested. OTOH, she is by far the most intuitively metarational person I’ve ever met, as well as being highly conscientious, context-aware, and excellent at predicting other people’s thoughts and actions. We each use different toolboxes that have turned out to often reach the same conclusions, and otherwise complement one another’s insights well. Early on we had lots of deep discussions about lots of topics, as one does, and just like any relationship, built up our own repertoire of shared metaphors and references and stories that we can use to explain our viewpoints to each other. It does sometimes feel a bit like translating thoughts into a foreign memeplex for me, but that’s basically true for almost any interaction I could have with almost anyone. What I find more challenging is that she is both much more person-oriented (which frankly I need, as I can be quite oblivious to people) and conflict-theoretic than me, which sometimes leads to us talking past each other or thinking the other is trying to escalate an argument. That’s happening less and less, though.
I’ve been married 6 years (together for 9), and my wife is not a rationalist, and wouldn’t be interested. OTOH, she is by far the most intuitively metarational person I’ve ever met, as well as being highly conscientious, context-aware, and excellent at predicting other people’s thoughts and actions. We each use different toolboxes that have turned out to often reach the same conclusions, and otherwise complement one another’s insights well. Early on we had lots of deep discussions about lots of topics, as one does, and just like any relationship, built up our own repertoire of shared metaphors and references and stories that we can use to explain our viewpoints to each other. It does sometimes feel a bit like translating thoughts into a foreign memeplex for me, but that’s basically true for almost any interaction I could have with almost anyone. What I find more challenging is that she is both much more person-oriented (which frankly I need, as I can be quite oblivious to people) and conflict-theoretic than me, which sometimes leads to us talking past each other or thinking the other is trying to escalate an argument. That’s happening less and less, though.