I grew up mostly hanging around with left-leaning Italian females, and as a result I occasionally would come across as touchy when interacting with right-wingers, males, or northern Europeans.
In that case you might not that profit much from become more touchy.
You might still profit from improving your dancing abilites as you dance frequently. Salsa might not be optimal here. Salsa has the issue that there a pause on 4 and 8, which isn’t easy to lead. Merengue and Bachata moves are easier to throw into the kind of dancing you do in the video you showed.
Er… Why? You realize that the man and the woman can communicate with each other, and thence ‘trade’ (in a LWesque general abstract sense)?
Framing a romantic interaction as a trade, cheapens the romantic interaction for a lot of people.
If you try to handle your relationship with a woman on an abstract level instead of handling it on a emotional level that significantly decreases your pool of potential mates.
Making a trade on an abstract level doesn’t make anyone feel horny.
A woman cares about how the interaction with you makes her feel. If all your interaction is on an abstract level she likely won’t feel the kind of emotions that she thinks are a requisite to starting a relationship with you.
I’m not against open communication but you should always understand what you are communicating. Communicating your desires in a way that isn’t needy is not something that easy.
Actually these days I usually only dance once or twice a week, and sometimes even less than that.
If you try to handle your relationship with a woman on an abstract level instead of handling it on a emotional level
That’s not what I meant. I meant ‘trade’ as in, the partners jointly trying to fulfil each other’s wishes, rather than each one only thinking about themself. That doesn’t require suppressing emotions.
that significantly decreases your pool of potential mates.
So what? We’re talking about long-term relationships, not hooking up with as many distinct people as possible. See the “Mean and Variance” section of this.
A woman cares about how the interaction with you makes her feel.
You don’t say?
If all your interaction is on an abstract level she likely won’t feel the kind of emotions that she thinks are a requisite to starting a relationship with you.
If something makes us both happy, why should we give a damn how likely anyone else would be to like it? It’s not like there are sex auditors watching us or anything.
I’m not against open communication but you should always understand what you are communicating. Communicating your desires in a way that isn’t needy is not something that easy.
It also depends on who the listener is. My new girlfriend and I don’t seem to be having much trouble with that so far.
In that case you might not that profit much from become more touchy.
You might still profit from improving your dancing abilites as you dance frequently. Salsa might not be optimal here. Salsa has the issue that there a pause on 4 and 8, which isn’t easy to lead. Merengue and Bachata moves are easier to throw into the kind of dancing you do in the video you showed.
Framing a romantic interaction as a trade, cheapens the romantic interaction for a lot of people. If you try to handle your relationship with a woman on an abstract level instead of handling it on a emotional level that significantly decreases your pool of potential mates.
Making a trade on an abstract level doesn’t make anyone feel horny.
A woman cares about how the interaction with you makes her feel. If all your interaction is on an abstract level she likely won’t feel the kind of emotions that she thinks are a requisite to starting a relationship with you.
I’m not against open communication but you should always understand what you are communicating. Communicating your desires in a way that isn’t needy is not something that easy.
Actually these days I usually only dance once or twice a week, and sometimes even less than that.
That’s not what I meant. I meant ‘trade’ as in, the partners jointly trying to fulfil each other’s wishes, rather than each one only thinking about themself. That doesn’t require suppressing emotions.
So what? We’re talking about long-term relationships, not hooking up with as many distinct people as possible. See the “Mean and Variance” section of this.
You don’t say?
If something makes us both happy, why should we give a damn how likely anyone else would be to like it? It’s not like there are sex auditors watching us or anything.
It also depends on who the listener is. My new girlfriend and I don’t seem to be having much trouble with that so far.