I seem to have a vague recollection of someone in one of my social groups watching a video (or something) of some guy doing the free hugs thing, and commenting something to the effect that (loosely paraphrasing) he must be a loser pathetically looking for pretexts to convince girls to hug him who otherwise wouldn’t; and indeed, very few people seemed eager to hug him.
“He” is the operating word. The fox and the sour grapes.
I dunno; extrapolating from the closest things to that that did happen to me, they would either applaud my boldness or excuse me because creeping each other out is something people (especially when drunk) sometimes do by accident and it doesn’t mean they are evil.
I’m not saying that everyone who does PUA is creepy but there are people who persue it in a way that alinates friends. I can understand why someone might not want to be seen by people he knows when he’s doing random cold approaches on the street.
Mostly, stuff like singing, dancing (but not paying people money to do that, except occasionally for night club cover charges)
I think that in both domains that you will get more status over the long term if you invest in professional training which costs money to build your skills.
I think you will get more status over the long-term by building your skills as effectively as possible than by self handicapping.
“He” is the operating word. The fox and the sour grapes.
I think that the person who commented about him was female, though I don’t remember for sure.
I can understand why someone might not want to be seen by people he knows when he’s doing random cold approaches on the street.
Why not? IME wingmen provide social proof. (Though there are cultural differences from place to place—for example, I would do that in the town where I study now but not where I grew up, as most of the population of the latter respond to random cold approaches on the street by frowning at you then looking away.)
I think that in both domains that you will get more status over the long term if you invest in professional training which costs money to build your skills.
Yes, but 1) I’m already 26, so I dunno how much sense it still makes to invest in “the long term” in this kind of things, and 2) the difference would be only noticed by people who are themselves sufficiently high-status in those domains (I’ve already had several people who asked me where I took singing classes and seemed surprised where I told them that I didn’t), so I’m not sure the game is worth the candle given that I’m not looking for a professional career in singing. (I might try to take singing and/or dancing classes next year if I’m not as strapped for time as now, but it’s not a priority.)
“He” is the operating word. The fox and the sour grapes.
I’m not saying that everyone who does PUA is creepy but there are people who persue it in a way that alinates friends. I can understand why someone might not want to be seen by people he knows when he’s doing random cold approaches on the street.
I think that in both domains that you will get more status over the long term if you invest in professional training which costs money to build your skills.
I think you will get more status over the long-term by building your skills as effectively as possible than by self handicapping.
I think that the person who commented about him was female, though I don’t remember for sure.
Why not? IME wingmen provide social proof. (Though there are cultural differences from place to place—for example, I would do that in the town where I study now but not where I grew up, as most of the population of the latter respond to random cold approaches on the street by frowning at you then looking away.)
Yes, but 1) I’m already 26, so I dunno how much sense it still makes to invest in “the long term” in this kind of things, and 2) the difference would be only noticed by people who are themselves sufficiently high-status in those domains (I’ve already had several people who asked me where I took singing classes and seemed surprised where I told them that I didn’t), so I’m not sure the game is worth the candle given that I’m not looking for a professional career in singing. (I might try to take singing and/or dancing classes next year if I’m not as strapped for time as now, but it’s not a priority.)