You have to realize that as a parent you deal with this situation on a daily basis: Kid is hungry, does something unreasonable, get’s upset about the resulting conflict.
You can’t do a psychological deep dive everytime. If this isn’t a recurring theme there very likely is nothing more to it than hunger+conflict=upset and calming the kid down is exactly the right thing to do.
In your case it seems to have been a recurring thing and as a parent you should catch that, but, in defense of your mother, she probably calmed you down a thousand other times without leaving any psychological scars (or even memories).
> You can’t do a psychological deep dive everytime.
True—but would be looking out for other signs that the child is anxious about getting enough food to see if this is a one-off or not. I am still interested in the question of why the child is so anxious about getting enough food that they created this scene. Something here does not add up.
> she probably calmed you down a thousand other times without leaving any psychological scars
Actually denying the existence of real problems was her modus operandi. For example, her solution to my anxiety about having my teeth drilled with a slow drill and no pain-killers was to tell me that the drilling did not hurt—a blatant lie.
You have to realize that as a parent you deal with this situation on a daily basis: Kid is hungry, does something unreasonable, get’s upset about the resulting conflict.
You can’t do a psychological deep dive everytime. If this isn’t a recurring theme there very likely is nothing more to it than hunger+conflict=upset and calming the kid down is exactly the right thing to do.
In your case it seems to have been a recurring thing and as a parent you should catch that, but, in defense of your mother, she probably calmed you down a thousand other times without leaving any psychological scars (or even memories).
> You have to realize that as a parent
I have been a parent for several decades.
> You can’t do a psychological deep dive everytime.
True—but would be looking out for other signs that the child is anxious about getting enough food to see if this is a one-off or not. I am still interested in the question of why the child is so anxious about getting enough food that they created this scene. Something here does not add up.
> she probably calmed you down a thousand other times without leaving any psychological scars
Actually denying the existence of real problems was her modus operandi. For example, her solution to my anxiety about having my teeth drilled with a slow drill and no pain-killers was to tell me that the drilling did not hurt—a blatant lie.