How many dogs it takes to make a dogpile, and how enthusiastic those dogs must be, is really a side question.
The point is that Sirducer encountered significant and vigorous disagreement, disagreement that I think would have been worth mentioning in your original post. And it was from one the people interested in discussing pickup on LessWrong, a category that you seem to think is unreliable for having valuable discussions on this subject. See some highlights from the rather harsh comment by pjeby:
Honestly, though, based on the entitlement attitude you’ve been showing, I suspect the reason your “honest” approach flopped was a function of your inner game, not of the women.[...]
To me, that says it’s not the women. It’s you.[...]
So frankly, you sound like you don’t like women or yourself very much. That, IMO, is the “something wrong with this”.[...]
Regardless of whether pjeby is generally on your “side,” he sounds like he is in that post. Also, in terms of debunking a problematic post by a PUA, someone with insider knowledge can supply a lot more credibility, and the PUA will be less able to object that his interlocutor doesn’t get it or lacks field experience.
And it was from one the people interested in discussing pickup on LessWrong
Denotationally, the statement above is true, but connotationally, it’s false. My only “interest” in this area is correcting misconceptions and answering questions. If there are no questions to answer and no attacks or mistakes to correct, I am perfectly fine with never bringing the subject up myself. To the extent that PUA overlaps with topics of my interest, those topics also apply to marketing, and other less-controversial subjects.
Thanks for clarifying. The point I was using you to try to make was that people motivated to discuss this topic (for whatever reason) and who have some level of insider creds (which I accord to you because you actually know what you are talking about on this subject and have experience) already police each other in ways not acknowledged by the original post, which also contradicts the panic about LessWrong threads turning into locker rooms.
I understand that, but I also don’t really want to be the PUA police any more than (I understand) Alicorn wants to be the feminism police.
(Also, it’s inaccurate to describe me as having PUA experience. I simply have some experiences that support the usefulness of certain ideas proposed by PUAs. Amongst actual PUA’s I would be considered a “keyboard jockey” or “rAFC” at best.)
How many dogs it takes to make a dogpile, and how enthusiastic those dogs must be, is really a side question.
The point is that Sirducer encountered significant and vigorous disagreement, disagreement that I think would have been worth mentioning in your original post. And it was from one the people interested in discussing pickup on LessWrong, a category that you seem to think is unreliable for having valuable discussions on this subject. See some highlights from the rather harsh comment by pjeby:
Regardless of whether pjeby is generally on your “side,” he sounds like he is in that post. Also, in terms of debunking a problematic post by a PUA, someone with insider knowledge can supply a lot more credibility, and the PUA will be less able to object that his interlocutor doesn’t get it or lacks field experience.
Denotationally, the statement above is true, but connotationally, it’s false. My only “interest” in this area is correcting misconceptions and answering questions. If there are no questions to answer and no attacks or mistakes to correct, I am perfectly fine with never bringing the subject up myself. To the extent that PUA overlaps with topics of my interest, those topics also apply to marketing, and other less-controversial subjects.
Thanks for clarifying. The point I was using you to try to make was that people motivated to discuss this topic (for whatever reason) and who have some level of insider creds (which I accord to you because you actually know what you are talking about on this subject and have experience) already police each other in ways not acknowledged by the original post, which also contradicts the panic about LessWrong threads turning into locker rooms.
I understand that, but I also don’t really want to be the PUA police any more than (I understand) Alicorn wants to be the feminism police.
(Also, it’s inaccurate to describe me as having PUA experience. I simply have some experiences that support the usefulness of certain ideas proposed by PUAs. Amongst actual PUA’s I would be considered a “keyboard jockey” or “rAFC” at best.)