I think it depends a lot on who you’re approaching, in what setting, after how much prior rapport-building.
I’ve gotten together with many women, all of whom I considered very attractive, on the first day I met them, for periods of time ranging from days to months to years. I consider myself to have been a 6 in terms of looks at that time, having been below median income for my city for my entire adult life.
The most important factor, I think, were that I spent a lot of time in settings where the same groups of single people congregate repeatedly for spiritual, intellectual, or recreational purposes. This creates an automatic point of connection and trust, even if you’re meeting someone for the first time.
Almost everyone I have asked out said yes, but this is probably because I tend to feel out their interest and availability before asking them outright. That’s facilitated by the community event, which gives us plenty of time to interact more and more intensely or back off if the interest isn’t there.
I think it depends a lot on who you’re approaching, in what setting, after how much prior rapport-building.
I’ve gotten together with many women, all of whom I considered very attractive, on the first day I met them, for periods of time ranging from days to months to years. I consider myself to have been a 6 in terms of looks at that time, having been below median income for my city for my entire adult life.
The most important factor, I think, were that I spent a lot of time in settings where the same groups of single people congregate repeatedly for spiritual, intellectual, or recreational purposes. This creates an automatic point of connection and trust, even if you’re meeting someone for the first time.
Almost everyone I have asked out said yes, but this is probably because I tend to feel out their interest and availability before asking them outright. That’s facilitated by the community event, which gives us plenty of time to interact more and more intensely or back off if the interest isn’t there.