And if numbers from pickup artists who actually practice this stuff look like 5%-ish, then I’m gonna go ahead and say that “men should approach women more”, without qualification, is probably just bad advice in most cases.
EDIT-TO-ADD: A couple clarifications on what that graph shows, for those who didn’t click through. First, the numbers shown are for getting a date, not for getting laid (those numbers are in the linked post and are around 1-2%), so this is a relevant baseline even for guys who are not primarily aiming for casual sex. Second, these “approaches” involve ~15 minutes each of chatting, so we’re not talking about a zero-effort thing here.
then I’m gonna go ahead and say that “men should approach women more”, without qualification, is probably just bad advice in most cases.
I’m in a pretty different context than you but like, you’ll learn more about yourself and others if you do this. More data at zero cost (once you internalise the thing about rejection being fine actually).
You are a gentleman and a scholar, well done.
And if numbers from pickup artists who actually practice this stuff look like 5%-ish, then I’m gonna go ahead and say that “men should approach women more”, without qualification, is probably just bad advice in most cases.
EDIT-TO-ADD: A couple clarifications on what that graph shows, for those who didn’t click through. First, the numbers shown are for getting a date, not for getting laid (those numbers are in the linked post and are around 1-2%), so this is a relevant baseline even for guys who are not primarily aiming for casual sex. Second, these “approaches” involve ~15 minutes each of chatting, so we’re not talking about a zero-effort thing here.
I’m in a pretty different context than you but like, you’ll learn more about yourself and others if you do this. More data at zero cost (once you internalise the thing about rejection being fine actually).