Having kids is a huge part of it for me. Came by it but absorbing a philosophy where it mattered a lot from my parents, which I liked and accepted; I’ve always aspired to be pretty similar to them. Now I’ve got a baby and yep, as I hoped or better.
I value many other things too, which have been pretty stable since high school. Helping the global poor somewhat, creating art, having friends, eventually getting married and being a good spouse, and some idiosyncratic imagination stuff. These things have all seemed obviously good to me for so long I don’t really know where they came from. Just following gradients as a kid and imprinting on (I think good) role models, maybe. I think I endorse it all, though.
I doubt this helps your particular quest, but that’s my answer, at least right now!
all good points, I’ve observed a lot of colleagues with babies / teenagers / grown-ups having a more healthy perspective about meaning in life, but that’s indeed not a path for me / for us
Having kids is a huge part of it for me. Came by it but absorbing a philosophy where it mattered a lot from my parents, which I liked and accepted; I’ve always aspired to be pretty similar to them. Now I’ve got a baby and yep, as I hoped or better.
I value many other things too, which have been pretty stable since high school. Helping the global poor somewhat, creating art, having friends, eventually getting married and being a good spouse, and some idiosyncratic imagination stuff. These things have all seemed obviously good to me for so long I don’t really know where they came from. Just following gradients as a kid and imprinting on (I think good) role models, maybe. I think I endorse it all, though.
I doubt this helps your particular quest, but that’s my answer, at least right now!
all good points, I’ve observed a lot of colleagues with babies / teenagers / grown-ups having a more healthy perspective about meaning in life, but that’s indeed not a path for me / for us
hm, I will try to lean more into my “idiosyncratic imagination” like https://peter.hozak.info/fiction/heat_death/unnatural_abstractions.html I guess