I’ve reconsidered the first one. It’s no longer on my list. Pleasurable as it may be, it sets a precedence that may make me less happy overall. I’m a forward thinking hedonist :) Another goal I forgot to write down was sperm donation, but my friends helped me realise that isn’t what I want to do!
Unprotected sex will be pleasurable, but until I have a stable partner, it poses a concurrent sexual health threat. If I have infrequent unprotected sex to lower my risk, I would find protected sex less pleasurable. Ignorance is bliss.
This my new ‘intentional list’ rather than a goal list for January:
It’s risky to aim at such a strong level of conformity. If you go that way, you’ll be letting social pressure mold you into an obedient everyman, with nothing to make you distinctly you.
I’m unsure what the intention of the comparison is. If you want to stretch it all you can, swallowing is a life-or-death situation. But you don’t routinely have to teach your kids to practice “safe swallowing,” whereas “safe street crossing” lessons for kids do exist.
I suspect Clarity was thinking about unprotected sex with somebody they’ve already been in a stable monogamous relationship for a while (possibly partly because they want a baby), whereas polymathwannabe was thinking about something more like a one-night stand with a stranger. But if the latter is right, the dramatization ain’t that unnecessary, at least in certain geographical locales.
My take is that he meant a black and white view of risk, which can be visualized using a SAFE | RISK coin rather than a SAFE ------------------ RISK continuum.
And to be somewhat on topic, in some areas of the world crossing the street can be either safer or more risky.
the correlation across locations between risk of street-crossing and risk of unprotected sex.
Hm :-) You’ll probably find two clusters: the first one will correspond to big cities and the other will correspond to failed states. Though I’m not sure there’s that much car traffic in the failed states.
Statistically, withdrawal is just as effective as condoms at preventing pregnancy; STDs are a bigger concern but the risk can be minimized with a checkup. However, condoms are not effective at preventing transmission of many types of STDs either.
Goals for January
Try unprotected sex for the first time
Try magic mushrooms
Exit your social enterprise: growing too quick, too much responsibility, unadequate staff, too stressful
Combining the first two would likely result in a more-memorable-than-most experience.
I’ve reconsidered the first one. It’s no longer on my list. Pleasurable as it may be, it sets a precedence that may make me less happy overall. I’m a forward thinking hedonist :) Another goal I forgot to write down was sperm donation, but my friends helped me realise that isn’t what I want to do!
What do you mean?
Unprotected sex will be pleasurable, but until I have a stable partner, it poses a concurrent sexual health threat. If I have infrequent unprotected sex to lower my risk, I would find protected sex less pleasurable. Ignorance is bliss.
This my new ‘intentional list’ rather than a goal list for January:
Normative interpersonal relations
Normative self concept
Normative gmail and google drive activity
No more obsessive music listening
Normative sleep patterns
Normative note taking
Normative scheduling and calendars
Normative emailing and writing
Normative career
Normative living situations
Normative family relations
Normative linguistic patterns
Not volunteering
Not enterpreneurialising
Not being a sperm donor
Not buying domain names
Political moderation
Heteronormativity
Neurotypicality
Psychotypicality
Not associating with socially a-normative friends
tl;dr: be more normal
It’s risky to aim at such a strong level of conformity. If you go that way, you’ll be letting social pressure mold you into an obedient everyman, with nothing to make you distinctly you.
Do you already know what partner you’ll have for this? This is literally a life-or-death situation. You can never be too paranoid.
There is also a chance of creating life, so… I guess the risks cancel each other out… for some kind of utilitarianism.
Is the % risk for death from STD the same as the % risk for pregnancy? Also, maternal transmission of STDs make life horrible for the fetus.
http://markmanson.net/std-guide
You mean like crossing the street?
I’m unsure what the intention of the comparison is. If you want to stretch it all you can, swallowing is a life-or-death situation. But you don’t routinely have to teach your kids to practice “safe swallowing,” whereas “safe street crossing” lessons for kids do exist.
The intention of comparison is, basically, “unnecessary dramatisation”.
I suspect Clarity was thinking about unprotected sex with somebody they’ve already been in a stable monogamous relationship for a while (possibly partly because they want a baby), whereas polymathwannabe was thinking about something more like a one-night stand with a stranger. But if the latter is right, the dramatization ain’t that unnecessary, at least in certain geographical locales.
In such geographical locales a lot of things, starting with just being there, tend to be a matter of life and death.
My take is that he meant a black and white view of risk, which can be visualized using a SAFE | RISK coin rather than a SAFE ------------------ RISK continuum.
And to be somewhat on topic, in some areas of the world crossing the street can be either safer or more risky.
I’d love to see the correlation across locations between risk of street-crossing and risk of unprotected sex. I suspect it’s noticeably positive.
Hm :-) You’ll probably find two clusters: the first one will correspond to big cities and the other will correspond to failed states. Though I’m not sure there’s that much car traffic in the failed states.
Statistically, withdrawal is just as effective as condoms at preventing pregnancy; STDs are a bigger concern but the risk can be minimized with a checkup. However, condoms are not effective at preventing transmission of many types of STDs either.
HIV is the only non-transient or trivial STI.
The actual risk is negligible for non-regular heterosexual contact with a given person of unknown status.
However, the anxiety will be harmful enough that I’d rather not.