I totally agree with the potential for confusion here!
My read is that the LessWrong community has too low of a prior on social norms being about membranes (e.g., when, how, and how not to cross various socially constructed information membranes). Using the term “boundaries” raises the prior on the hypothesis “social norms are often about boundaries”, which I endorse and was intentional on my part, specifically for the benefit of LessWrong readership base (especially the EA community) who seemed to pay too little attention to the importance of <<boundaries>>, for many senses of “too little”. I wrotr about that in Part 2 of the sequence, here:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/vnJ5grhqhBmPTQCQh/boundaries-part-2-trends-in-ea-s-handling-of-boundaries
When a confusion between “social norms” and “boundaries” exists, like you I also often fall back on another term like “membrane”, “information barrier”, or “causal separation”. But I also have some hope of improving Western discourse more broadly, by replacing the conflation “social norms are boundaries” with the more nuanced observation “social norms are often about when, how, how not, and when not to cross a boundary”.
I totally agree with the potential for confusion here!
My read is that the LessWrong community has too low of a prior on social norms being about membranes (e.g., when, how, and how not to cross various socially constructed information membranes). Using the term “boundaries” raises the prior on the hypothesis “social norms are often about boundaries”, which I endorse and was intentional on my part, specifically for the benefit of LessWrong readership base (especially the EA community) who seemed to pay too little attention to the importance of <<boundaries>>, for many senses of “too little”. I wrotr about that in Part 2 of the sequence, here: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/vnJ5grhqhBmPTQCQh/boundaries-part-2-trends-in-ea-s-handling-of-boundaries
When a confusion between “social norms” and “boundaries” exists, like you I also often fall back on another term like “membrane”, “information barrier”, or “causal separation”. But I also have some hope of improving Western discourse more broadly, by replacing the conflation “social norms are boundaries” with the more nuanced observation “social norms are often about when, how, how not, and when not to cross a boundary”.