It really is possible to get better at social skills. I didn’t come up with “How did you hear about the group?”, I found out about it because people asked me that question and I found it welcoming.
Actually, there could be a problem in the sense that you don’t want to drive away potential members through bad manners, and you also want to introduce good manners in a way that doesn’t drive away people who are capable of learning them reasonably easily.
Yes, but there is a limit to how much it can be improved. And to as Paul Graham points out here improving it to near it’s potential maximum would come at the expense of other things, like rationality.
I would be a little bit surprised if a randomly chosen person in the reference class of the man in the OP had already picked so much of the low-hanging fruit that trying to get more wouldn’t be worth it.
EDIT: In order to not appear one-sided, I’ll point out that I also include Submitter C herself in that reference class—reading too much into a joke is as much of a faux pas as making a joke that too much can be read into.
It really is possible to get better at social skills. I didn’t come up with “How did you hear about the group?”, I found out about it because people asked me that question and I found it welcoming.
Nerd culture takes an unfortunate amount of pride in being standoffish, dickish, and awkward.
Actually, there could be a problem in the sense that you don’t want to drive away potential members through bad manners, and you also want to introduce good manners in a way that doesn’t drive away people who are capable of learning them reasonably easily.
Yes, but there is a limit to how much it can be improved. And to as Paul Graham points out here improving it to near it’s potential maximum would come at the expense of other things, like rationality.
I would be a little bit surprised if a randomly chosen person in the reference class of the man in the OP had already picked so much of the low-hanging fruit that trying to get more wouldn’t be worth it.
EDIT: In order to not appear one-sided, I’ll point out that I also include Submitter C herself in that reference class—reading too much into a joke is as much of a faux pas as making a joke that too much can be read into.