I would buy that if I actually observed women who are interested in me orchestrating situations in which I find myself alone with them. That is not what I observe in most cases (excluding the women who explicitly ask me out, which is technically “orchestrating a situation in which I find myself alone with her”, but presumably not what you meant). Yes, there’s a common narrative about how women create affordances for the men to make moves, but that sure is not what I see actually happen.
My clearest data on this comes from slutcon, because I got explicit data (afterward) telling me that a whole bunch of women were interested. Two of them explicitly asked me out. Zero of them orchestrated a situation in which we were alone together, or anything else along those lines.
It has ever happened that an interested woman orchestrated such a situation with me, but it sure does not seem to be the typical case.
I would buy that if I actually observed women who are interested in me orchestrating situations in which I find myself alone with them. That is not what I observe in most cases (excluding the women who explicitly ask me out, which is technically “orchestrating a situation in which I find myself alone with her”, but presumably not what you meant). Yes, there’s a common narrative about how women create affordances for the men to make moves, but that sure is not what I see actually happen.
My clearest data on this comes from slutcon, because I got explicit data (afterward) telling me that a whole bunch of women were interested. Two of them explicitly asked me out. Zero of them orchestrated a situation in which we were alone together, or anything else along those lines.
It has ever happened that an interested woman orchestrated such a situation with me, but it sure does not seem to be the typical case.