Someone asked that question who couldn’t figure out what to say was probably trying to figure out what kind of lie appropriate social behavior requires him to tell.
Filtering out those kinds of people when you seek friends is useful.
That doesn’t mesh with my experience. Someone with social skills will usually ask me to clarify, or say “hmm, that’s an interesting question” then give a really interesting answer.
If they don’t have anything they really love (or it’s a socially unacceptable answer, like one of the ones I gave) then they’ll deflect gracefully, at which point I’ll talk for a bit more then end the conversation.
One’s without social skills who have something they love will often give a short answer, and then I’ll have to ask a few more probing questions or relate it to what I love before they really start to open up about it.
Ones without social skills who don’t have anything they love will say so, and again I’ll talk for a bit more then end the conversation.
Filtering out those kinds of people when you seek friends is useful.
But “those kinds of people” here means “people with social skills”.
That doesn’t mesh with my experience. Someone with social skills will usually ask me to clarify, or say “hmm, that’s an interesting question” then give a really interesting answer.
If they don’t have anything they really love (or it’s a socially unacceptable answer, like one of the ones I gave) then they’ll deflect gracefully, at which point I’ll talk for a bit more then end the conversation.
One’s without social skills who have something they love will often give a short answer, and then I’ll have to ask a few more probing questions or relate it to what I love before they really start to open up about it.
Ones without social skills who don’t have anything they love will say so, and again I’ll talk for a bit more then end the conversation.
Not in the social circles in which I move and that includes a bunch of people who make money with coaching and social skill training.