something tangential that came to mind while reading this: flirting with a room is an extremely useful skill. It allows one to keep ambiguity but make some of it spatial between people rather than probabilistic. “I could kiss someone right now,” after succeeding at something, for example, has some strategic ambiguity, but is a prime opportunity for someone to say, eg, “same, honestly”. If those were said for real, they’d be slightly exaggerated, likely actually meaning “I am thinking positively about the act of kissing someone as a celebration” and “I am also thinking positively about that scenario, and I am leaving ambiguous whether it’s you I’m thinking about kissing”. then you could escalate with, eg, “well come over here then!” and not making any further effort; if it goes through, they might come over. This would only happen in a group where you’re already at steady state of having accurate maps of each others’ versions of this sort of leaving-free-variables-in-your-meaning-for-someone-else-to-set ambiguity thing, it’s not a new-friends sort of thing to have happen unless you’re in a particularly spicy group.
something tangential that came to mind while reading this: flirting with a room is an extremely useful skill. It allows one to keep ambiguity but make some of it spatial between people rather than probabilistic. “I could kiss someone right now,” after succeeding at something, for example, has some strategic ambiguity, but is a prime opportunity for someone to say, eg, “same, honestly”. If those were said for real, they’d be slightly exaggerated, likely actually meaning “I am thinking positively about the act of kissing someone as a celebration” and “I am also thinking positively about that scenario, and I am leaving ambiguous whether it’s you I’m thinking about kissing”. then you could escalate with, eg, “well come over here then!” and not making any further effort; if it goes through, they might come over. This would only happen in a group where you’re already at steady state of having accurate maps of each others’ versions of this sort of leaving-free-variables-in-your-meaning-for-someone-else-to-set ambiguity thing, it’s not a new-friends sort of thing to have happen unless you’re in a particularly spicy group.