I think the main point stands even if we drop the negative judgement. There is obvious stuff that modifies what you can and should do, but that you do not percieve a modifier does not mean there is not one in effect.
It also seems unlikely that there would be super bad stuff and then very slight stuff. Where is all the medium grade stuff?
I could also approach that liking to be around people is a slight psychological problem. This makes you:
Fill your schedule with all kinds of courtesy visit and meetings
every phone call and meeting last longer for the same effect
Be more likely to adjust your opinons to please others
So you should probably fix your allism before your life becomes a totally hollow shelll. (this statement is caricatyrical for clarity and is supposed to be inappropriate)
If you are actually doing something but you are constantly getting stuck doing administrative work or keeping up the social appratus then every day contains less progress than it could without you even realising that you are missing out.
There are some reasons with that “social anxiety” trait pattern where it can be crucial to not feel broken even if you are not the exact same as everybody else around you. “Measure a fish by its ability to climb a tree and it feels inferior for the rest of its life”. Premature optimization can lead to you trying to be good at everything. It tends to be that if you try to be good at everything you end up being good at nothing.
I dislike social anxiety because it injects false beliefs and predictions into my brain relating to how much people like me. I really like interacting with people, and these false beliefs often stop me from interacting with people as much as I’d like.
I also have meeting which last longer than they probably should, because I like spending time around people. This is bad in the ways you’ve mentioned, but it does feel like a different mental thing than social anxiety, in part because it isn’t as destructive, or sacrificing of things I want. There’s some sacrifice, but not as much as social anxiety.
Maybe one dichotomy here would be mental features which give you fewer options (like social anxiety), and mental features which lead to certain on-the-margin tradeoffs. Social anxiety feels less like a marginal tradeoff and more “there’s an entire world which you aren’t even trying to explore”.
I dislike the perpetrating stigma on disorders.
I think the main point stands even if we drop the negative judgement. There is obvious stuff that modifies what you can and should do, but that you do not percieve a modifier does not mean there is not one in effect.
It also seems unlikely that there would be super bad stuff and then very slight stuff. Where is all the medium grade stuff?
I could also approach that liking to be around people is a slight psychological problem. This makes you:
Fill your schedule with all kinds of courtesy visit and meetings
every phone call and meeting last longer for the same effect
Be more likely to adjust your opinons to please others
So you should probably fix your allism before your life becomes a totally hollow shelll. (this statement is caricatyrical for clarity and is supposed to be inappropriate)
If you are actually doing something but you are constantly getting stuck doing administrative work or keeping up the social appratus then every day contains less progress than it could without you even realising that you are missing out.
There are some reasons with that “social anxiety” trait pattern where it can be crucial to not feel broken even if you are not the exact same as everybody else around you. “Measure a fish by its ability to climb a tree and it feels inferior for the rest of its life”. Premature optimization can lead to you trying to be good at everything. It tends to be that if you try to be good at everything you end up being good at nothing.
I dislike social anxiety because it injects false beliefs and predictions into my brain relating to how much people like me. I really like interacting with people, and these false beliefs often stop me from interacting with people as much as I’d like.
I also have meeting which last longer than they probably should, because I like spending time around people. This is bad in the ways you’ve mentioned, but it does feel like a different mental thing than social anxiety, in part because it isn’t as destructive, or sacrificing of things I want. There’s some sacrifice, but not as much as social anxiety.
Maybe one dichotomy here would be mental features which give you fewer options (like social anxiety), and mental features which lead to certain on-the-margin tradeoffs. Social anxiety feels less like a marginal tradeoff and more “there’s an entire world which you aren’t even trying to explore”.