Yes, I have been lurking for a similar amount of time, but I still am very reluctant to make comments or posts. I think the reason for me is that I am unsure of my rationality skills, and don’t like feeling the status lowering that would come from potential comments criticizing or correct me.
Yes, this is a problem with myself, but yes, more friendliness would make it easier for me to comment.
It kinda stinks when you feel like on one hand, you “shouldn’t” be afraid of commenting and should “grin and bear” any criticism because you’re “supposed” to or something, but on the other hand it feels like it lowers your status and that hurts.
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way. First of all, it’s okay that you haven’t yet mastered rationality—that’s why we’re here. Say you comment and make a basic rationality mistake. I’m going to have a better idea of your actual abilities (not necessarily lesser, just more precise), but no judgement or shaming—it’s just an opportunity to help you along. And if you take it well and learn from it, you gain massive respect in my book—and I don’t think I’m atypical in this regard.
Heck, I used to be a lot more blunt and probably seemed unfriendly to a lot of people when I’d point out mistakes. Even then no one lost points in my book for making mistakes or not knowing something. The points were all won/lost by how people respond to criticism.
I don’t want to tell you that it’s “a problem with you” or that you need to feel a certain way, I just want you to know that people are a lot less hostile than it can seem—especially if you’re willing to own your mistakes and correct them :)
Yes, I have been lurking for a similar amount of time, but I still am very reluctant to make comments or posts. I think the reason for me is that I am unsure of my rationality skills, and don’t like feeling the status lowering that would come from potential comments criticizing or correct me.
Yes, this is a problem with myself, but yes, more friendliness would make it easier for me to comment.
It kinda stinks when you feel like on one hand, you “shouldn’t” be afraid of commenting and should “grin and bear” any criticism because you’re “supposed” to or something, but on the other hand it feels like it lowers your status and that hurts.
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way. First of all, it’s okay that you haven’t yet mastered rationality—that’s why we’re here. Say you comment and make a basic rationality mistake. I’m going to have a better idea of your actual abilities (not necessarily lesser, just more precise), but no judgement or shaming—it’s just an opportunity to help you along. And if you take it well and learn from it, you gain massive respect in my book—and I don’t think I’m atypical in this regard.
Heck, I used to be a lot more blunt and probably seemed unfriendly to a lot of people when I’d point out mistakes. Even then no one lost points in my book for making mistakes or not knowing something. The points were all won/lost by how people respond to criticism.
I don’t want to tell you that it’s “a problem with you” or that you need to feel a certain way, I just want you to know that people are a lot less hostile than it can seem—especially if you’re willing to own your mistakes and correct them :)