Not into ancestral simulations and such, but figured I comment on this:
I think “love” means “To care about someone such that their life story is part of your life story.”
I can understand how how it makes sense, but that is not the central definition for me. When I associate with this feeling is what comes to mind is willingness to sacrifice your own needs and change your own priorities in order to make the other person happier, if only a bit and if only temporarily. This is definitely not the feeling I would associate with villains, but I can see how other people might.
Nod. For me the ‘willing to sacrifice’ is mediated through the ‘caring about them as part of you’ thing. (I think the ‘life story’ bit is maybe more opinionated in that I largely engage with life through a narrative focus, so that was more like ’the Raemon flavored version of it)
But, yep this is sure not a word I expect everyone to be using the same way.
Not into ancestral simulations and such, but figured I comment on this:
I can understand how how it makes sense, but that is not the central definition for me. When I associate with this feeling is what comes to mind is willingness to sacrifice your own needs and change your own priorities in order to make the other person happier, if only a bit and if only temporarily. This is definitely not the feeling I would associate with villains, but I can see how other people might.
Nod. For me the ‘willing to sacrifice’ is mediated through the ‘caring about them as part of you’ thing. (I think the ‘life story’ bit is maybe more opinionated in that I largely engage with life through a narrative focus, so that was more like ’the Raemon flavored version of it)
But, yep this is sure not a word I expect everyone to be using the same way.