There is also a winner’s curse risk: if a person is too good, s-he could have some secret disadvantage or may leave me quickly as s-he will have many better options than me. It puts a cap on the level above median which I should look at. Therefore first few attempts have to establish the medial level of available for me people.
Another problem is that any trial run has a cost, like years and money spent. If I did searching too long, I will spent less time with my final partner.
There is also a winner’s curse risk: if a person is too good, s-he could have some secret disadvantage or may leave me quickly as s-he will have many better options than me. It puts a cap on the level above median which I should look at. Therefore first few attempts have to establish the medial level of available for me people.
Another problem is that any trial run has a cost, like years and money spent. If I did searching too long, I will spent less time with my final partner.