If you’re poly-friendly and want to haul yourself down to Berkeley sometime after, call it January 10, and you’re interested, I’ll go out with you at least once. We can talk about worldbuilding and Nightwish and whatnot.
If not I could just give profile-optimizing tips. Or if so I could give profile-optimizing tips, for that matter.
I’ll definitely see about getting myself down to Berkeley after the holidays are through.
After giving it a bit of thought, I’m reasonably sure I have plenty of reasons to accept the offer and no reasons not to, even if the idea does stir up a bit of my old social timidity.
Oh, and while I’m not exactly poly myself, I’m definitely poly-friendly.
Well, I don’t actually have much experience in this area (obviously), so this is based mostly on introspection and guesswork, but I have observed in myself a distinct reluctance to split my attention among things which I feel individually merit more than cursory attention.
I don’t know what this actually amounts to in practice. I suspect this means that if I had multiple girlfriends, as soon as one was clearly my primary, I would find myself inclined to neglect my relationships with the others. (Which, combined with a touch of Projection, is why I once referred to myself as “naturally monogamous”—I now think that’s an oversimplification and not necessarily a good thing.). However, as I’ve never even had one girlfriend at a time, this is all speculation, and I’m most likely near the limits of what I can learn through introspection.
So I’m… potentially poly, verification pending? :P
Have you ever really liked a girl who was going out with a friend of yours? How jealous did you feel? That could help shed light on how poly you could be.
I’ve never been in that exact situation, but I have been in situations where I think I would have felt jealousy if I was likely to in general, and didn’t. Jealousy has never really even been an issue for me, even before I knew poly was a thing.
I would be extremely surprised if I ended up having issues with jealousy.
Where do you live?
Around Here.
*consults Google Maps*
*reads OKC profile*
If you’re poly-friendly and want to haul yourself down to Berkeley sometime after, call it January 10, and you’re interested, I’ll go out with you at least once. We can talk about worldbuilding and Nightwish and whatnot.
If not I could just give profile-optimizing tips. Or if so I could give profile-optimizing tips, for that matter.
Whoa, that’s mentoring taken seriously!
That’s… quite generous of you.
I think I may want to take you up on that at some point, if the offer’s serious.
Offer’s serious ^^
Well, cool.
I’ll definitely see about getting myself down to Berkeley after the holidays are through.
After giving it a bit of thought, I’m reasonably sure I have plenty of reasons to accept the offer and no reasons not to, even if the idea does stir up a bit of my old social timidity.
Oh, and while I’m not exactly poly myself, I’m definitely poly-friendly.
Are you inexactly poly?
Heh.
Well, I don’t actually have much experience in this area (obviously), so this is based mostly on introspection and guesswork, but I have observed in myself a distinct reluctance to split my attention among things which I feel individually merit more than cursory attention.
I don’t know what this actually amounts to in practice. I suspect this means that if I had multiple girlfriends, as soon as one was clearly my primary, I would find myself inclined to neglect my relationships with the others. (Which, combined with a touch of Projection, is why I once referred to myself as “naturally monogamous”—I now think that’s an oversimplification and not necessarily a good thing.). However, as I’ve never even had one girlfriend at a time, this is all speculation, and I’m most likely near the limits of what I can learn through introspection.
So I’m… potentially poly, verification pending? :P
That was very nicely said.
Have you ever really liked a girl who was going out with a friend of yours? How jealous did you feel? That could help shed light on how poly you could be.
Oh, that’s not a concern at all.
I’ve never been in that exact situation, but I have been in situations where I think I would have felt jealousy if I was likely to in general, and didn’t. Jealousy has never really even been an issue for me, even before I knew poly was a thing.
I would be extremely surprised if I ended up having issues with jealousy.
That’s certainly a good sign.
I’m not complaining, but why is this upvoted so highly?
I don’t know if there are enough upvotes in the world to express the value of actually taking action over merely dispensing verbal platitudes.
Because it was quite an “awww, what a nice thing to do” deserving comment, as well as a very clever idea.