I agree with everything you’ve said, but note that there’s some evidence they were in a relationship (AllAmericanBreakfast, a friend of Shekinah, says she was in “distress about being separated from Alex”. Moreover, they appear to have gone swimming together, which is somewhat intimate). Plus, I don’t see how someone can be raped (non consensual coitus instead of fingering) in a moment unless both parties are naked, one is sexually aroused and they are physically very near. But possibly I’m reading too much into the words there: memory can be faulty, and sometimes people block traumatic memories from their minds, or could just be bad writers.
In some fraction of worlds, I can see how someone could think that consent was implicitly given. Human communication is highly context dependant, with all of us living in our own models of reality. So maybe Alex made an honest mistake or Shekinah gave and retracted consent or so on. But in the vast majority of those worlds, I would guess Shekinah would have been fine with having sex. And in those worlds, I imagine Alex would have described things quite differently in his post.
Anyway, I’m going to stop replying because I don’t want to keep losing karma and I expect further discussion will not be that useful.
I agree with everything you’ve said, but note that there’s some evidence they were in a relationship (AllAmericanBreakfast, a friend of Shekinah, says she was in “distress about being separated from Alex”. Moreover, they appear to have gone swimming together, which is somewhat intimate). Plus, I don’t see how someone can be raped (non consensual coitus instead of fingering) in a moment unless both parties are naked, one is sexually aroused and they are physically very near. But possibly I’m reading too much into the words there: memory can be faulty, and sometimes people block traumatic memories from their minds, or could just be bad writers.
In some fraction of worlds, I can see how someone could think that consent was implicitly given. Human communication is highly context dependant, with all of us living in our own models of reality. So maybe Alex made an honest mistake or Shekinah gave and retracted consent or so on. But in the vast majority of those worlds, I would guess Shekinah would have been fine with having sex. And in those worlds, I imagine Alex would have described things quite differently in his post.
Anyway, I’m going to stop replying because I don’t want to keep losing karma and I expect further discussion will not be that useful.
I mean, it’s possible to feel that way about a friend.
(I strong-upvoted your previous comment (even though I weak-downvoted this one).)