I agree that it’s important to optimize our vibes. They aren’t just noise to be ignored. However, I don’t think they exist on a simple spectrum from nice/considerate/coddling to mean/callous/stringent. Different vibes are appropriate to different contexts. They don’t only affect people’s energy but also signal what we value. Ideally, they would zap energy from people who oppose our values while providing more energy to those who share our values.
Case in point, I was annoyed by how long and rambly your comment was and how it required a lot of extra effort to distill a clear thesis from it. I’m glad you actually did have a clear thesis, but writing like that probably differentially energizes people who don’t care.
I agree that it’s important to optimize our vibes. They aren’t just noise to be ignored. However, I don’t think they exist on a simple spectrum from nice/considerate/coddling to mean/callous/stringent. Different vibes are appropriate to different contexts. They don’t only affect people’s energy but also signal what we value. Ideally, they would zap energy from people who oppose our values while providing more energy to those who share our values.
Case in point, I was annoyed by how long and rambly your comment was and how it required a lot of extra effort to distill a clear thesis from it. I’m glad you actually did have a clear thesis, but writing like that probably differentially energizes people who don’t care.