I don’t think that you can effectively get rid of creepyness without empathy.
Anyone who follow a specific set of rules like: “If I see X, I should do Y” is likely to be socially maladjusted.
Intellectual rules just don’t work, if you are in the wrong emotional state.
If a man does sexual advance X but doesn’t feel the emotions that a human would naturally feel if he would do X, he’s likely to be perceived as creepy if the woman is empathic enough to assess his emotional state.
There a ton of difference between a man going for a kiss because he read somewhere that it’s the proper thing to do at the end of a date and a man going for a kiss because he feels a sincere desire to kiss a woman.
This comment absolutely expresses the key problem with way too many of the responses to this series of posts. The posts complain of bad and creepy behaviour, the responses attempt to explain away the complaint but read like perfect examples of the problem.
I don’t think that you can effectively get rid of creepyness without empathy.
Anyone who follow a specific set of rules like: “If I see X, I should do Y” is likely to be socially maladjusted. Intellectual rules just don’t work, if you are in the wrong emotional state.
If a man does sexual advance X but doesn’t feel the emotions that a human would naturally feel if he would do X, he’s likely to be perceived as creepy if the woman is empathic enough to assess his emotional state.
There a ton of difference between a man going for a kiss because he read somewhere that it’s the proper thing to do at the end of a date and a man going for a kiss because he feels a sincere desire to kiss a woman.
This comment absolutely expresses the key problem with way too many of the responses to this series of posts. The posts complain of bad and creepy behaviour, the responses attempt to explain away the complaint but read like perfect examples of the problem.